For What.... we have received.. let us be thankful!!!

I think Saikorians will be able to get this more in depth.. others can too.. (everything thats truth is truth for everyone.. aint it??).... have you ever thought how blessed as you are today...

we had a prayer in school.. before every meal that goes.." For what we are about to receive..lets be thankful!!!".... thats a good thing to imbibe in boys at that age.... however, for men.. we should imbibe that we need to be thankful for what we have already recd.

we need to be thankful...

that we are alive and could see the sun today

that we could afford our last meal and can afford the next one

that we could breathe, see, walk and move without any pain

that there is some one who cares for us for what we are .... "inspite of" us..( consciously make an effort to reciprocate that)

that we can afford to "think", enjoy some pleasures.. for ther are people for whom thinking is a pleasure..

that we are what we are...

Thinking of the next step is always fine, however, forgetting the happiness in what you are now is a curse. Saying to live the moment is easy than actually doing it... I have been trying to do it .. sometimes could sometimes could not ...still I am learning to live my moment fully... and when I do it.. that will be the eternal bliss I believe.. ( this is not an article but.. a spark of thought)

Happiness-Externalized

Sometimes you feel that suddenly various dots are getting connected and lots of things make sense at once. One such moment made me to pen down this piece. (People reading my blog will get the context once I publish another article. ) .

Ok, let me start from the root of this thought. I was just thinking why do we at all be sad and what can be remedy for this ( the why s and the What s). When I was thinking of a solution for not being sad or say, for being happy, I suddenly realised that my search was focused externally. I mean, I was searching for an external event, external cause, external reason. So, in short the source of my happiness was external to me, say an event. An event that is totally not in my control and unpredicatable, so it seemed very illogical to me. Also, these events that make us happy are highly variable across time and space. What makes us happy in one coordinate may not make us happy in another.... Then I realised how vulnerable our happiness is, when the source is not you, but something else.

Then, I remember (reading J. Krishnamurti..some book) the words " sorrow is because there is a gap between the "being" and "to-be" " . This hiatus causes the internal conflict and stress. And, when this being and to-be are tightly bound to some external events like your career, your realtionships, then your happiness is very fragile.

So, we need to search the source of our happiness that is internal to us, that is tightly coupled with "self" and that is part of you. May be this is what is called "soul searching" .. I dont know... is this the path to "realization" ...Lets think... this does nt end here.......

The First Impressionists-classified

Another classification... even biologists might have not thought that there may be so many possible classifications in humans.

In this write up, I m going to classify people in the way they try to make their first impressions. The old maxim goes-" First impression is the best impression".. this gets reinforced in to our minds in many stages of life , thro many "well-wishers", advisors etc. In some stage even scientifically with figures, like 75% of the impression in interviews is formed in the first 2 minutes etc. So, with all this data, humans have started acting smarter and manipulate their first impressions. Everyone has their own way of creating "the first impression" actually it varies with the crowd they are trying to impress. I am considering casual instances in life here (esp : in a peer team) and not formal.

The Rudists:

These are the set of people, who at first instance act very serious and more towards being rude. This may be due to their sense of insecurity or sort of a pre-emptive move, sending a message to the team saying that....dudes! when dealing with me be on guard!. ( This idea is derived from discussions with Arun). Further down the line these people return to normal states, where in people around will feel that he has obliged and they are blessed that he or she is behaving normally with them. Mind u! this trick works! I have seen it working (:))

The "Serious"ists:

These are the people who are toned down versions of the above category. Actually, their message at the first impression will be " People I am serious about work, I am not concerned about anything else..lets talk business". This move allows him/her to gain the confidence of the team. If not consistent they will loose out in the long run, however, in this pressure-to-perform world the first move has become more important.... This set of people are also slightly publicity mongers, but they dont project themselves that way.. thats the whole trick.. ;)

The Aggressionists:

These people very well know that the first step is the last step (this is the name of a book written by J. KrishnaMurti). So, they jump start and start pouring their pearls of wisdom, stories of their achievements, their glorious past, their futuristic ideas and they also tend to show their aggression by proclaiming their high aims and also setting goals for the team....heheh.. These people are very (HIGHLY) vocal and that is their strong tool to make their first impression.

The Silent Killers:

The weapon these people posses is "Silence" .. amidst this chaos of vociforeous people they follow this differentiation strategy. Its killer tho. People think they are "great" thinkers... some think they are great listeners..somehow they also gain that first good impression.

The Innocents:

These are the set of people who do not have a clue of the underlying war of impression formation that is happening.... these are the potential target segment for the impression mongers above...however, everyone has some element of this group in them. They realise the things very lately and some may turn into any of the group mentioned above...until then they become scape goats to these games of impression. These people are actually branded "morons" in the minds of the "soldiers" for being honest...

The Pragmatists:

People belonging to this group actually observe the situation, do some cost-benefit analysis, think what the impression-forming exercise will help them, the importance of the audience to them, etc etc.. after all these calculations are done, if it turns out to be negative, they just project their low-self or else the otherwise... these people believe in Law of Conservation of energy very much...

The Saints:

These people are a little bit different than " the pragmatists", they are cool, observant, take what ever things others give, however, they suspend their thoughts and impressions. They do not jump to conclusions or judge people. They know whats happening. They just participate and have their piece of fun in the game. However, when it is their turn, they are honest like "the innocents". Actually, whole of this exercise is futile to impress these, as they dont form the "first impression" at all and they do not work towards giving that first ..........one.

That is it! ughh I will add to this list in case I come accross any other genre... hope it was a good read....