Words of Wisdom- Curbing the right to experience?

nothing seems to me, to be more important than Experience. I strongly believe that be it education or life, decisions or opinions should flow out of one's own experience but not what other's experienced or what they say have been others' experience. Somehow, i see this lacking in many whom i interacted till now.
Somehow, they seem to be make things to be certain in life, it may be due to lesser tolerance to ambiguity or the intention to potray themselves as perfectionists. This may be the case where students approach their seniors to take their opinions regarding professors or the institution and any similar context. Back in college days i used to see guys asking the seniors about how to do this and that and may be they ended up being regarded as good students or those who had all the grades in their pockets just because they were prepared for the task infront...but i feel there were few who had the fun of experiencing the unknown..which the other lot dint have, i think that s what makes you a evolved individual after every experience.
So, i feel even though you need assistance from others' experiences you need to experience the context with your own "virgin" senses and thoughts and have the guts to face the ambiguity.
Extending this to the concept of "Listening to elders"... yeah true, they are experienced, they have already invented the wheel..but does that mean you need to fix up your thoughts based on those advises? ookok.... the example of "need not touch the fire to say it is hot" but i feel even feeling the heat of the fire is worth it... any experience with a "zero mind" is worth it, it makes you to grow, it makes you a human with your own identity..." fire may be cooler to you" -who knows!! I think this is what is lacking in Indian youth ( I dint travel around the world so i cant comment on others)....the urge to experiment, the enterprising spirit, the dare to fall and rise... the "audacity" to say that IT IS NOT THAT WAY FOR ME I DONT CARE WHAT IT IS FOR OTHERS... once this fundamental way of thinking changes, i think we can see more "Individuals"-not mere bricks in wall and definitely more entrpreneurs.
Hope it makes some sense?????

Extremism in thought

Tell me now!!! Do you belong this OR that????
call it the "OR syndrome", "being extremely clear", "having strong opinion" etc etc. The root, for all these states of mind lies in their, what i call, Extremism in Thought. Somehow i feel, that the best things in this world come from convergence of two paradoxes(ugh!)..its like this we SHOULD have social workers who are "selfless", "altruists" , "not for profit" etc etc. we SHOULD have a business man who is "selfish", "greedy for money", "profit oriented". So these two ideas emerge from the OR pardigm.

Now, why cant we accept a selfish business man for whom ther is no space for a new penny in his wallet and wants to drop it to a cause rather than throw it... IS IT UNACCEPTABLE??? I think this is AND paradigm whcih gave birth to concepts like corporate social resp etc etc. doesnt it make sense to create wealth and distribute it rather than ditribute a scarce resource.

Coming back, sometimes the strength of ur expression about one subject is considered to talk about ur confidence-again roots in extremism in thought. cant I be open enough to accept changes to my so called deep-rooted opinion. does this speak of low-confidence and in turn lesser knowledge or clarity? As per Carlos Castaneda's don Juan's Teachings (google it, i read it only once), after fear, Clarity is one's own enemy....so i feel we need to be less deep rooted about opinions.

this is a larger concept which can be extended to many states of minds and popular thinkings.say like "regionalism", "religionism", "casteism" anything which makes you a strong follower or subscriber of one thought, one way of life or one opinion, which I think makes you a very very small person and hinders you to grow as an enlightened being...
what say dude??? for understanding (better) what i'm blabbering read the poem "IF" by Rudyard kipling.