Relationships- Defined

I have been thinking through this word " Relationship". However, I was not able to articulate my thoughts on this fantastic, complicated yet simple phenomenon. So, today lemme give it a try. By Relationship, I mean any relationship- whose instances will have the name Mother-son, father-son, brother-brother, Lover gal-boy, married etc etc etc.... So i would like to think aloud on that generic term relationship, define it, classify different forms. I may not be successful, as I am thinking as I am writing this. Also, as applicable to all my blogs, I DO NOT have deep-rooted opinions.... and all these writings are open to discussions.

Ideal Relationship: An Ideal relationship to me is utopian. Rather, I can say atleast between two individuals is difficult to achieve. To me an ideal relationship is the one in which each individual is as comfortable as he is with him/herself. He is as natural as when he/she is alone. The only one instance of this kind of relationship I see is Relationship with SELF. 100% truthful, honest, deep and natural. If an individual is not in such a relationship with self, then he/she is not living his/her life, but living others' life.... there are people (rather many) who do that.

Conditional relationship: If you do this then I like you, If you dont do this I dont like you. If you love me you SHOULD/ MUST like or do this.... these are typical Ifs used by people who "feel" that they are into a relationship. Rather, they are self-obsessed and they can't build a relationship with other "individuals" but just enforce their ideas. Generally, these relationships are found between insecure adults and children..., insecure spouses etc. Some of the typical syndromes in this are expecting Wishes on birthdays, valentine's day, father;s day, mother's day, friendship day, independence day, "Sun" day, "mon" day .......dry day etc :) :)

Dog/Servant- Master Relationship: This is the extreme case of the above-mentioned relationship, where in, its only about one individual and the other is just dummy or actually image of the other , atleast that is how the dominant in the pair perceives. This generally can be observed in extreme case of parenting, student-teacher relationship

Information driven relationships: I love this name...heheh.. definitely it has nothing to do with IT... but definitely to do with information. In these relationships the amount of love/care is directly proportional to the information (esp personal/classified) information you share. for ex: if you share ATM PINs you are the closest heheh.. its like saying "we have no secrets". If you forgot to inform a person, then it is like I CARE A DAMN for u...(hhehehe).

Relationship -my definition: For me, a relationship is a successful one or for that matter I can say a relationship exists only when the two persons involved in the relationship retain their SELF and not loose it. The two, should be individuals. I am inspired by kahlil Gibran ( in prophet), he says that in marriage the couple should be like Pillars of a temple. not too close nor too far , that is when the structure above is safe. ( I have rephrased what he said). I think its applicable to every instance of a relationship. Relatioship exists when you like the individual for what he/she is and not for what you want him/ her to be.

So ppl, check out where your different relationships fall.........